A SOLICITOR has put pen to paper with the aim of helping people battling through messy break-ups.
Diane Roome, of Crich, has co-written ‘Managing Separation and Divorce’ with her friend, Elisabeth Sneade.
The book is designed as a no-nonsense guide for people going through the pain of divorce and separation and is the culmination of years of experience in the field.
This is the first book Diane has written and she wanted it to be straight forward and easy for people to understand.
“It doesn’t include any law,” she said.
“It’s designed to help people who are dealing with divorce and help them get a bit of control back in their lives in a difficult situation.”
Diane said the book was about common sense and included tips on sorting out finances and resolving disputes without going to court.
Often mediation and arbitration can be the answer, rather than ending up in court – which can turn out to be a costly alternative for both sides.
“There are times when you perhaps do need a bit of advice,” she said.
“It’s an emotional situation, but people need to address their emotions at an early stage if they can and we are trying to give them a nudge in the right direction.
“Emotions can effect a person’s ability to make objective decisions, which ultimately they will have to do.
“Often people can’t agree anything, but then if you sort out the arrangements for the property you have a starting point.”
Diane had the project in mind for several years but never got round to doing it.
Eventually a couple of spells in hospital last year left her with some time on her hands and she got down to writing.
Her writing partner, Elisabeth, is an old friend from law school.
“We have been friends since law school and we both have very similar approaches to the way we practice I think,” Diane said.
“We are both big fans of getting people to take responsibility for themselves.
“For Elisabeth and I, a lot of this is stuff we do on a daily basis, but we have only just written it down.”
Diane started her career in law later in life.
For years she worked as a civil servant in London, however decided to study law when she was in her 40s.
Diane now works for Bilton Hammond Solicitors in Mansfield.
She said she felt satisfied that she had completed the book and was excited about seeing her name in print.
‘Managing Separation and Divorce’ is published by Emerald guides and will be available to buy from May this year.