Relationship guidance group offers advice to Derbyshire holidaymakers

WITH SUMMER now here, Relate Derby and Southern Derbyshire is offering seven survival tips to help people have a happy holiday experience with their partner or family.

Relate Derby knows that despite the sunshine, the summer isn’t always a happy time for people. Holidays are about relaxing and having fun, but can often lead to arguments and upset.

And in fact, the local charity often sees a surge in calls after the summer holidays from couples and families, who haven’t had the dream getaway they planned.

Relate counsellor, Denise Knowles, says: “As temperatures rise, expectations and the potential for arguments can soar.

“Spending more time together without the usual distractions of work and routine can sometimes expose underlying tensions and this can lead to arguments… even choosing the holiday and getting organised for it can cause disagreements.”

This year, Relate Derby is offering advice to families and couples to make sure this summer’s holiday snaps are ones to remember, not forget.

With its seven summer survival tips, Relate Derby is hoping to give people the best possible defence against conflict and help everyone get more from their relationship and their holidays.

Relate’s seven wonders of summer survival:


Make special plans together to enjoy the long summer days (and evenings!) and be committed to sticking to them. If budget is an issue, why not make use of special offer vouchers to help your budget go further?

With the long school break, “I’m bored” can often be a common phrase around family homes. Give children responsibility for making a wish list of what they’d like to do. This can both empower them and take the pressure of high expectations from parents. Remember to give children a budget though!


If you, like a lot of the country, are planning a ‘staycation’ this summer, make sure you switch off. Be sure not to look at work emails and not answer work calls. Laze around and make time for family and friends.


Being hot can often make you fractious and can cause arguments. Cool down by jumping in the paddling pool with the children or even have a romantic water fight!


Try to see things from the views of your partner, or each member of the family. They might want different things from your break, but it’s about compromising, to make sure you both get the best out of your holidays.


Take the pressure off yourself by involving everyone in the packing and preparation for your holiday.


Make use of time to reconnect as a couple both emotionally and physically.


Unrealistic and unrealised expectations, disappointment and breakdowns in communication are things that Relate counsellors hear frequently when people come to talk to us. Make sure you keep talking and listening to each other about your needs from a holiday.

Happy holidays!!

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